"I will not stop role-playing when I get a girl-friend."
"If I get a girl-friend, I'll still go my own way and do my own things."
"I do not like French Toast. No, really."
"I will always need fantasy to escape from reality."

A lot of this can be heard of people who rpg together. If you've got a group of good friends, why would you ever need more? You can tell them all about your problems and depressions and stuff and they will relate it a bit to make way to insensitive jokes about it. Then you hear it's all the same. Everyone has got problems, but you all relate to it with humor and the knowledge you're not alone. Your also pitiful friends are there and they live with all their problems, so do you. And you get real close to one another, which expresses itself in the ultimate annoyement of one another. Teasing someone by being misquoted in a newspaper, by having lost his career, by not knowing what French Toast is or thinking it really is from France, you know.
You spend a lot of time with one another real easy and you all are friends in the best sense of the word.

Then you meet a girl. Happens a lot. You like her a lot. Is quite common. She seems to be more special. And by some weird twist of faith, you really get to spend time with her and she grows a liking on you too! It happens. Fungus also can grow on someone's toe.

Well, okay, you've got yourself a girlfriend! Someone to be sweet to, someone who can say nice things about you and even THINK nice things about you. Someone you can explain for hours, without result, what role-playing is. Someone who seems to have no common interest with you but still seems to please you, even when you spend loads of time with her.
Well, it's the whole secret of girlfriends. They are different. They like boys and you like girls. Even that is not common. All you like about her is not what she likes about herself. It's all the differences that seem to attract you to one another.

Well, fine, but now what? She is good for you and she is real. Although you intend to keep on with your fantasy-hobby, you start to lose interest. Why escaping to a world if it's a world where your loved one does not exist? If she really annoys you, okay, but... wait, that's not right either. That annoyment even attracts you more to her. Quite complicated, this girl-friend-stuff.

Well, it's an inevitable consequence. All the time you're not real happy you escape, but if something real good comes along you might lose this need. But not to worry, this might fly over. Though still loving your girlfriend, the new-factor might change. She might grow to be part of your life and you might start living it with her. Still very happy with her, but new problems might arise. Problems with dividing attention to her and your family and school, problems with jealousy, first quarrels, not knowing how to make French Toast, you know. What to do? Well... escape.
And you might once again long for a good old-fashioned night out role-playing.

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